WHAT WOULD YOU DO?
Casting a reality check on real-world conundrums
First, meet the neighbors. Ask them for ideas
and advice. Second, check
the paper and the web for
events where people meet:
bookstores, pick-up basketball, quilting groups, garden
clubs, hikes, volunteering to feed the needy, etc.
Third, RSVP and show up!
Tour the neighborhood and
your new city. Where’s the
best hardware store? Coffee
shop? Mechanic? Museum?
Talk to people as you
explore, and smile to appear
“Besides church and synagogue, I recommend
researching charity and civic
groups that fit your passion
and purpose. Rotary Clubs and
similar groups meet weekly,
so it is easier to get to know
people. If you volunteer for a
charity, make sure the volunteer opportunities are frequent
and consistent. Another option
is participating in group fitness
classes or sports, where you
will see the same group of
people on a weekly basis.”
You’ve just moved to a new city where
you don’t have any connections. How
do you make friends and business
“Form a “Meet Up” for speak-
ers or meeting planners—or
attend other meet ups with
people you want to know.
Volunteer for committees,
particularly the “sign in” com-
mittee. Also, seek mentors and
ask for help. Introduce yourself
as a newcomer to people you
encounter and tell them you
would like to meet people.”
Do a search on Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn before
you move to see who lives in the area and reach out to them.
If there’s a local Welcome Wagon, contact the person in
charge. If you purchased a house through a real estate broker,
ask that person to help you make new acquaintances. If you
have a medical challenge, join local support groups. If you
have children, go to school functions.
When i moved from
australia to the united
states., i gave toy koalas with
handwritten notes to my
neighbors to let them know
an aussie had moved in. i
Googled women’s networks
and attended, searched the
nsa website for local speakers
and had coffee with them,
attended local nsa meetings,
joined the Chamber of
Commerce, and researched
every local event i could find.
i made friends quickly, built
strategic relationships and
gained new clients!
—neen james, Csp
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attend meetings of business or professional organizations
you belonged to in your former city. if your college has an
alumni club in the area, go to its events. after you’ve made
some friends, invite them to a dinner party at your home. if
you don’t cook, learn! or cater the dinner. it’s not about the
food, it’s about the conversations.
“1. Find the local NSA Chapter.
2. Get your butt on Meetup.com.
3. Hang out at a local coffee
shop with high business traffic.
4. Use Facebook.”
St. Louis, Mo.