POINT / COUNTERPOINT
Opposing views on burning questions
You have each other’s back.
“Trust is probably the most important word
in any business relationship. My husband—who is my com-
pany’s operations director—and I know we can totally trust
each other to always have the best interests of the business
at heart and we have each other’s back. I’m not sure you
can really ever say that about anybody you may bring in
from the outside. This is the No. 1 advantage to working
with your spouse/partner.
In addition, we get to travel together—our business is
global and when we can, and it makes sense, we are easily
able to go to business events together. If there is reliable
Wi-Fi, we can run the business from anywhere. For us,
travel is a love and value that we share so if we worked for
different companies we would lose this major advantage.
We possess completely different skill sets; he handles logistics, financial and operational tasks, all things I’m not so
good at! When we allow each other to focus on our own
tasks and responsibilities, then everything works well. We
meet in the ‘board room’ (aka the kitchen, favorite restaurant, local coffee shop—never the bedroom!) to discuss
what needs to be discussed and make decisions.
I wouldn’t change it for the world!”
Lesley Everett, FPSA, PSAE, is an international
speaker and specialist on personal branding and
the personality of the corporate brand. She has
published three books, received the Professional
Speaking Award of Excellence—the highest
accolade for UK speakers given by their peers—in 2010, and she
was the 2012-13 President of the Global Speakers Association.
Go to www.walkingtall.com.
PRO: No, it’s better to keep marriage and business separate.
“I adore my Bill Elvins. We’ve been married for 37 years.
And we have two very different styles. His ability to take
complete phone messages is nil. His attention to detail is
nil. Filling out the categories for writing checks in Quicken
upsets him. He does not like to talk on the phone. Understandably. This is not why he was put on this earth. He
adores my NSA colleagues. He loves to see me on the
platform. He says, ‘I hate it when you go, but you must.
You are needed.’ And when I return home and tell him
about some of the people who touched my heart, he gets
teary. It is perfect as it is.
On the other hand, I have a semi-virtual assistant,
who is unrelated by blood, marriage, or any other shape
and form. She handles article placement, Web interface,
contracts and billing. We get together once a month for
catch-up and strategy. It is wonderful to have someone
who knows the business, can push back when necessary,
and I don’t have to see her daily. It gives each of us a
unique perspective—which, also, is perfect as it is!”
Eileen McDargh, CSP, CPAE, is the CEO of The
Resiliency Group. The author of seven books, she’s
No. 4 in Top 30 Communication Gurus by Global
Gurus. And she’s happily married! Go to
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When not posing questions for this column, Eleni
Kelakos uses theater techniques to help speakers and
leaders perform at their peak on and off the speaking
platform. Contact her at email@example.com.
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